Let’s honor our body and its energy as a sacred expression of our vitality, let pleasure guide us to peace and presence.
Opening
Close your eyes, and take slow, deep breaths. Let your body relax. Breathe deeply and steadily. Feel the rise and fall of your breath, bringing your awareness inward. Notice any sensations in your body without judgment. Stay present with whatever arises. Let’s explore pleasure slowly, above the shoulders, staying aware of our breath and sensations. Imagine with your touch, it opening energy channels, naturally and without a goal. Let’s move below the shoulders to the nipples, imagine our touch activating the heart chakra, enhancing emotional connection and intimacy, heightening physical pleasure by linking our sensual sensations with feelings of vulnerability and trust, creating a deeper, more fulfilling experience through the circulation of heart energy. Let’s move to the pelvic region. Visualize energy moving up your spine with each inhale and down your body with each exhale, grounding you. Let’s help wake it up with contractions to the perineum. Open your eyes, slow down, breathe deeply. Open your eyes when ready, staying mindful and calm.
Masturbation is Meditation
Let’s consider masturbation as meditation. We bring our awareness to be a goal instead of cumming. This is something that Joel Benjamin does with his deep stroke sequence during his circle work and edging workshops. It’s a masturbation series that consists of 12 techniques. It’s considered like a meditation because we focus on the sensations, breath, and energy flow rather than a goal – cumming.
How we do that is we incorporate our non dominant hand into stroking and we work on techniques that may feel good but won’t make us release. In this practice we’re going to actively keep our arousal levels at around a 5 or 6 on a scale of 10. We want ourselves to elongate, swell and harden, but we don’t want ourselves to heat, feel qi building up.
Once the strokes are introduced, we play for 15-20 seconds on each stroke and then change it up.
1a. Compression. Start at the base, then glide up to mid-shaft, finally reaching the head—each zone gets a deliberate squeeze. Coat your cock in slick arousal, admire its shape, and savor every sensation as you take yourself in hand.
1b.Anoint the head with lube like a ritual—no hands, just the bottle. Let the lube drizzle onto the tip of the head without touching it.
2. Milking – Use a tight fist around just the head of the penis, applying rhythmic pressure in upward strokes.
3. Catapult – The hand grips the base of the penis, brings it to an angle, slides up and releases.
4. Corkscrew – Dominant hand twists in an overhand grip up the shaft; add the non-dominant hand for alternating twists.
5. Crowning – Circle the fingertips around the glans (head) with light, teasing strokes for focused stimulation.
6. Hand-over-Hand (Firm Up, Loose Down) – Two-handed strokes: a.) Firm grip pulling up, b.) Loose grip gliding down for contrast.
7. Cock Cradling – Use your non-dominant hand to cradle the base, fingers sliding through the pubic hair, while your dominant hand grips from above. Slide both hands in opposite directions for contrasting friction.
8. Juicing – Press fingertips along the underside of the shaft, from base to head, mimicking a “juice-squeezing” motion.
9. Rope Shake – Form a loose cage with both hands around the shaft and vibrate rapidly to target deep internal arousal.
10. Double Stack – Twist the shaft lightly, then follow with a firm upward stroke for layered intensity.
11. Firestarter – Rapid, full-length friction from base to tip, cycling up and down to build heat and sensitivity.
12. Interlaced Grip – Lock fingers together around the shaft for a snug, two-handed stroke, emphasizing firm upward pulls.
If one masturbates with their non-dominant hand, it feels different and it’s helpful to stimulate less-used nerves and pathways, potentially enhancing arousal in a different way. This practice is rooted in the concept of neuroplasticity—the brain’s ability to rewire itself based on new experiences. By engaging the non-dominant hand, we heighten sensitivity, and potentially help break patterns associated with habitual stimulation.
